Tuesday, June 7, 2016

Nosy

Something I have learned about myself over the years is that I ask a lot of questions, just like my mom.  She has always been a question asker (3rd grade teacher) - sometimes rapid fire- and sometimes not. But usually rapid fire.

Questions come naturally to me.  So, naturally, I am a very extroverted, inquisitive person paired with a loud voice.  What does that mean?  I will give you an example.

Today I was in the office and there was an empty desk.  So I inquired about said desk because I was curious who sits at that space.  I didn't want to move in there or measure for redecorating.  

My buddy says to me, "Why, aren't you nosy?"  I laughed (loudly) of course and agreed.

When I went to my desk, I wondered - AM I NOSY?  FOR REAL?

nos·y
ˈnōzē/
informal
adjective
  1. 1.
    (of a person or their behavior) showing too much curiosity about other people's affairs.
    "he had to whisper to avoid being overheard by their nosy neighbors"
    synonyms:pryinginquisitivecurious, spying, eavesdropping, intrusive

This definition is a little harsh, right?  I wouldn't say I'm PRYING or SPYING (although....if we are being honest, I do love to spy a bit but it's a non-threatening spy).  I'm just observant!  Is that a crime?  Maybe I should MYOB but I don't really want to.  It's who I am.

My stance on questions and general inquisitive nature is that it shows that you are listening and really engaged in conversation.  Can you imagine a lack of response from your discussion partner?  Studies show that people need verbal feedback.  So there!

Questions make you an active listener.  Plus, I cannot just hold my questions to the end (was REALLY bad at that at school)!

Are you nosy?

1 comment:

31derful said...

So whose desk was it?? Inquiring minds want to know!